I read that Chris Brown’s friends and dancers were using twitter to attack Rihanna.
Well this has made me shake my head a bit.
These same people cited an article by The National Coalition For Men that was copied onto The Young Black and Fabulous website that did not have a link.
I could not find the original.
Seems that Rihanna opening up about the assault by Chris Brown, in which he pleaded guilty, has upset the The National Coalition For Men (NCFM).
They feel she needs to talk about the alleged times when she “struck” Chris Brown in the face, citing “court records and other sources, documenting the “numerous times” before Brown assaulted her
Perhaps they realize the “WTF” response this will get since they have said that “although that would not justify his more severe assault, her violence should not be ignored, and if she does not “woman up” to it then her message will be the usual one-sided double standards that leave female perpetration covered up.”
WOW, “woman up”!
Boy this is amazing, but I didn’t want to jump to conclusions, I visited the top 5 websites on Domestic Violence to see the statistics.
One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.
An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.
85% of domestic violence victims are women.
Perhaps the NCFM should have stayed silent?
I’m not sure my research is helping the argument from NCFM that Rhianna needs to “Woman Up.”
I have found that if you “woman up” you end up dead. “One-third of female homicide victims that are reported in police records are killed by an intimate partner. And here is more, “In 70-80% of intimate partner homicides, no matter which partner was killed, the man physically abused the woman before the murder.”
The NCFM mat want to work on counseling for the young boys who live in the abusers home since, “Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children when they become adults. 30% to 60% of perpetrators of intimate partner violence also abuse children in the household.”
The NCFC followed up with, “There is no excuse for domestic violence,” it applies to both sexes. Female violence in relationships is not rare but is often hypocritically deemed acceptable or humorous, such as in the film, Sideways.
It is part of the cycle of domestic violence, which cannot be stopped without addressing the problem honestly. Children are damaged just by witnessing domestic violence, regardless of its severity.
Yes, all true, this is a cycle and it is a two way street, though as the numbers reflect it is the woman who is the victim almost all the time. This may be for whatever psychological reasons, making this public announcement at this time is more damaging to women and young girls especially when Rihanna has admitted to flaws.
What the NCFC is asking Rihanna to do will not mitigate or excuse the crime committed by Chris, and that is what it seems they are looking for.
I used the most recent fact sheet from the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.
Here is a small clip from the interview Chris gave to MTV, the full interview will be aired tonight at 6 p.m. ET/PT on MTV.
below the clip are these lovely links: Go here for domestic-violence resources, or check out Think MTV for a video handbook on spotting the warning signs of abuse.
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